Disenfranchised grief. That’s how Bojena Kelmendi, clinical counsellor at OVC, describes what many pet owners experience when their companion animals die or become seriously ill. “Grieving over an animal is often not socially acceptable,” she explains. “People are afraid of being judged or criticized by others if they are upset.”
Those who have not had that kind of special bond with an animal may not understand how painful the loss can be, she says. Even those who do recognize the sadness often expect the grieving person to get over it quickly. “As a society, we have less and less patience, we want a quick fix. So people are told to get over it, move on, get on with your life. The reality is that we need to stop and allow ourselves to process so that we really can move forward and grow from the experience.”
Kelmendi, who is a registered social worker trained in bereavement and grief counselling, works with OVC clients who are dealing with a pet that is very ill or the loss of a pet. She also works with OVC veterinarians and students who are looking for guidance in helping their clients or who need support to deal with stress and anxiety.
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Bojena Kelmendi offers guidance to pet owners struggling with grief and stress associated with the death or illness of their animal companions.